What’s your definition of infidelity?

one:
In this module, one of the things you will explore is infidelity. Please watch the video I posted on the module about “rethinking infidelity” and think about the following questions for your discussion.

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The purpose of this discussion is to help you think about infidelity from a different perspective.

Discussion questions:

1) What’s your definition of infidelity? Is a kiss with a stranger considered cheating? What if your wife has dementia, and you start seeing someone else? Sexting? Pornography?

2) How has affairs changed across history? How has the meaning of monogamy changed?

3) What are the 3 ways infidelity hurts today?

4) What is your take away about why happy or good people cheat?

5) What do you think about the recovering from affairs? How has your opinion changed or remained the same after watching this video?

6) Finally: think about what new thing you have learned about yourself if anything?

video link: https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en

Discussion 2:

In this episode of Life Interrupted we learn about the impact of Cancer on Suleika family. We realize that when an individual becomes ill their family also experiences and lives with the person’s illness.

The family inadvertently becomes a major part of the individual’s narrative.

This week as you reflect, first write/talk about what resonates with you as you view “A Family Gets Cancer”

Suleika’s brother was paramount in her cancer survival as her bone marrow donor. She talks about how complicated and anxiety-ridden that was… It placed a lot of responsibility on her younger brother while also putting a perplexing weight on the family – what if it didn’t work… what if his bone marrow didn’t save Suleika.

These questions and numerous others were parts of the silent musings of each of the family members.

Suleika’s mixed ethnic background was one of the issues that presented a concern esp. if her brother was not a match!

What were some of the other issues that Suleika troubled over? What did her brother say was also a big issue?

How does Suleika’s mother explain “helplessness”? and what is she struggling through and how does she work to resolve her angst. How does she use her art as a caveat to both grieve and deal with her own feeling?

How does the Suleika’s dad explain his feeling?

Jody Kellas’s (2005) article Family Ties: Communicating identity through jointly told family stories stated “Stories can work to organize our experiences into coherent packages that, when socially enacted, serve to negotiate and stabilize our individual and relational identities (Linde, 1993). Identity also emerges as a function central to family stories. The content of family stories often reflects a family’s values, culture, and its collective meanings: ‘‘Family stories are one of the cornerstones of family culture. . . . By their presence, they say what issues*/from the most public and predictable to the most private and idiosyncratic*/really concern a given family’’ (Stone, 2004, p. 17, emphasis in original).” ARTICLE ATTACHED AND IN YOUR READING QUE.

Share with your peers how Suleika’s family’s collective story acts as a means for each individual to consider their role and their identity as they move collectively to support Suleika.

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